I am very sick with cancer, and my girl left me..its like she hates me now. why?
punk girl Asked: I am very sick with cancer, and my girl left me..its like she hates me now. why?
I Me and my girl were together 8 months, both lesbians and 22. Engaged and happy, i was her Romeo. But a month ago i was diagnosed with a brain tumor and have had weekly chemo the past 3 weeks. Ive lost some hair, weight and i throw up. I can still work but i need xtra breaks. Few days ago the doctor told me the chemo is no longer working and now MUST operate or my vision and speech will be permanently damaged. Aint seen her in a month since i was diagnosed. We txt all the time but when i call she never answers or calls me back. Both our Facebook and Myyearbook pages say we're together. Last week someone posted on her MYB that her woman was lucky to have her. I saw this and posted i was the lucky one and i love her. Well the next day she saw it and deleted me. i asked why and she said i was in her stuff on there too much and its annoying. Called me stalking and creeping. The night before this i posted, "Tonight i asked God to send an angel to watch over her while she slept, till i can hold her every night." Feel like i was slapped in the face. That night i txted i love her and she said she loves me too. I apologized profusely and she said that stuffs gotta stop cuz she got mad about it once before. I txted the Dr said to keep my stress down and its hard when we fight. She replied, "Then leave me." i said no b/c i love her and made a commitment. The next morning i txted i love her and she replied "Uh huh" I said i was sorry, idk what i did wrong, im the same girl i was before i got sick, and please dont push me away. She txted "Please leave me alone." Heard nothing else till the next day she txted she was sorry and she loved me. Thought we were fine. Well 3 days ago i asked her if i could do something nice for her friend. She txted "No leave me and my friends alone. Its over, im tired of your stalking." Said she didnt feel the same for me anymore, she felt this way shortly before i got sick and couldnt tell me. Basically stayed with me out of pity, which i hate. Said not to hold onto something that isnt there and im not gonna guilt her into loving me. The ring has been on her dresser for days. Idk WHAT this is all about, i cant read her mind! This was all a txt msg breakup BTW..can she even look me in the face?? Said she dont wanna talk in person b/c she dont want me to see her indifference. Told me i was too hyper and weird, and i say the same stuff over and over. Well i have had bad ADHD since i was 12 and meds havent helped. My memory is bad thats why i forget i say stuff. Alzheimers runs in my family. Says she doesnt go for virgins, which i am. I do joke about sex a lil bit but she calls me obsessed. I am not. Swears she did nothing wrong. Am i a bad woman?? What have i done wrong??
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Awh, im really sorry ): I honestly don't think you have done anything wrong. Just wait a while and see what happens. But, pray to God. God bless you and I hope you get well.
Everything will be alright. No need to worry.
nothingwrong ,may god bless you and heal you , you are in my prayers /have a merry xmas and enjoy each day with friends and family
My suggestion to you is that you need to go ahead and distant yourself from her. She sounds cruel and heartless. Why would she wait until you're diagnosed with something to choose to break it off with you when she was there at first. Was there any sign of break up before you was diagnosed? Some people up and leave when the person they are claiming to care deeply about come down with something, but not one time do they think about that could be them. She wouldn't want you to leave her if she was in your situation. My advice to you is to stop contacting her and dont let her manipulate you. When you stop contacting her completely she's going to start telling you how much she love you and miss you. Don't fall for it because it will only stress you more. There is no way she can love you because she would be right there by your side helping you through this. Focus on you getting better and you will make it through.
I too have cancer and have had a wonderful time with a great lady for the last 2 years. Things are moving along now for me and I am getting all of the same treatment and reactions that you are. My thoughts are I think that she is afraid and maybe unable to handle what is coming for me. It really hurts as I can hear in your message as well for you. Staying strongis what I am going to try to do. I know easier said than done. I think I will try to find some others from the cancer clinic and see how they are coping strange place to make friends but we are all in this together. There is also some great support groups online with others like us.
My motto is "I am not going down without a fight"Pride intact of course … good luck. Rick
You are not the bad person here.
She obviously cannot handle your illness and is showing you how cold and callous she is, in the worst way possible. She's really got a mean streak to do this to you when you need her more than ever.
There are names for people like her, and being a good person I can't even repeat them.
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